It is extremely important to question what you feel your natural instinct and your heart is telling you as a mother. When we aren’t mindful, it can often feel instinctual and natural to shame, belittle and hit our kids because we are damaged and hurt from a life of pressure, shame, rules, and “have to’s.” From a wounded place, our intuition and instinct are wounded too and, if we listen unthinkingly, it will feel like our heart is saying, “It’s what was done to me, and I turned out fine.”
So often what we think is our ‘natural instinct’ or our first instinct is in fact something else entirely. Usually it is the voices of our own childhood and of society we hear loudest, but those are the ones that come to the surface when we are tired, stressed out, sick, or unhappy. Some parents believe following their heart or instinct means they should trust their urge to hit and shame and discipline and control their children. When a person yells at, or hits their child, they are not following their true natural born maternal instincts or intuitive nature because they have been obliterated by social conditioning, cultural environment, and fear. Question your ‘instincts’, and if what you are doing in any moment isn’t creating more peace and harmony in your home – don’t do it! – Chaley.
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